PAPERMAG's gay editorial content tends to err on the side of guys, guys and more guys, but what about the girls, girls and more girls? We're making an effort to even things out a little more around here and we're kicking things off with a little post on lesbian dating-whisperer Milly DuBouchet of the website LezFactor.
More than a year ago, Milly DuBouchet quit her full-time job as a financial advisor to help lesbians in New York up their dating game. She launched the website LezFactor, a counseling service that helps lesbians navigate dating via mixers and, for the more serious client, personal consultations.
DuBouchet says she's qualified to help people find love because she's, "In a seven-year relationship that's going strong and we're incredibly happy. Would you rather seek advice from someone who hasn't had success with romance or has found her happiness? Plus, no disrespect to the Millionaire Matchmaker [Patti Stanger] but I'm a lot nicer."
DuBouchet's advice for a first date: keep things short and casual, like running errands together. "I'm totally against the traditional date," she says. "People get nervous and over zealous when planning a date and it shouldn't be that serious."
And if the date's not the greatest? "I suggest that you get to know her anyway," DuBouchet says. "Maybe you can find some interaction outside of the romantic world. Or, maybe you can hook her up with a friend."
Or maybe you can hook up with one of her friends.
Test out DuBouchet's theories and your own here: LezFactor is hosting a mixer and after-party Saturday at the Vault, the lower level of Elements, at 225 E. Houston Street. Admission is $10.